Sifting through my paperwork, I found a list of 10 things I pledged to do. I’m guessing it’s over a year old. And while I noticed that I haven’t mastered all of my pledges, I’m actually doing fairly well.
A lot of my success is related to my life coaching courses. While the value of coaching may appear overrated, the premises behind the methods are both valid and relevant:
1) Many of the solutions to our most pressing problems already exist in our head. So why do we struggle to solve our own problems? Fears and assumptions blind us. We’re afraid of change, and tend to limit our options to the two or three obvious answers—and fail to consider outside-of-the-box solutions. Furthermore, we often place high expectations on our decision—assuming the result will be all or nothing. Once you weed out the noise and get to the root of the issue, the answer becomes far clearer.
2) We assume that everyone will view and solve our dilemma the same. We ask friends and family for advice, and sometimes professionals, and then we repeat—the same frustrations and concerns over and over, hoping to satisfy our need for understanding. We don’t just want our predicament to be heard, we want it completely validated. Why? Revisit #1 for the answer.
3) We absolutely ignore the most important consideration of all: learning to recognize what we can and can’t control. We fear what we can’t control, and try to control what we fear. We waste a lot of energy on the wrong problems.
4) We are too close to ground zero to see beyond the smoke. When faced with overwhelming adversity we ARE ground zero. Success can be attained when someone—with a neutral understanding of our issues—leads us through the fog and into clear air.
My coaching training absolutely changed my outlook. While I still face fears and stress, I am no longer bound by constant anxiety. Perseverance prevails. when I need outside support, I’m much more open to assistance.
So, now, back to that pledge list—a list of the Top 10 Personal Goals I wanted to implement, including changing the way I look at my path in life. Although you might not be too interested in my pledge list, I invite you to create your own. You don’t have to start big, small steps are often more effective. Feel free to view my pledge list for ideas or inspiration.
“You don’t have to view the whole staircase to take the first step!”
What would your pledge list look like?
Here are wonderful links to help you conquer your pledge list:
Parenting – implementing positive parenting techniques
Reducing and managing stress
Reducing arguments with my spouse over parenting
Getting along with my co-parent
Implementing/following my core values
Tackling something new!!