-I’m an introvert. Good friends know it’s almost impossible to get me out at night unless I’m with family.
-For years I was extremely anxiety-ridden
-I don’t like change
-I am NOT a risk taker
A few more things about my challenges…
-I started my own business that requires me to network all the time.
-When I want to succeed, I dismiss every single fear holding me back.
-I’m not a lawyer or accountant, but I’m learning how to understand them. I built my own website after months and months of trial and error. I earned my marketing degree before the internet, learning social media was hands on. I’ve changed everything!
-I’m risking my time, my money, my reputation, my fears, my identity, my comfort zone, and if I fail…? I’ll pick myself back up.
-I teach classes all over the community and meet new people every day
The more I put myself out there, the more knowledge I gained, the more confident I became. I’m learning to push through my fears.
Easier said then done, right? Fear and anxiety are often compounded by habit. It takes hard work and persistence to achieve something out of your comfort zone. Continuous. Non-stop. Hard work. Perseverance. And a ‘What have I got to lose?’ attitude.
I once interviewed a very successful businesswoman for an article aimed at working moms. At the time she was the CFO of a upcoming business, the president of her community business association and a mom of four. Despite her success, she admitted she still ‘faked it to make it.’ “I act confident, even when I’m shaking inside.”
The more I work with women, the more I recognize the basic factors that really make a difference.
Change your Thoughts/Change Your Habits/Change Your Life
1) Believing you are worth it. Once a woman recognizes that she has value, that she deserves to succeed and that using her energy to do so IS a good use of her time, she can start moving toward her goal.
2) Believing you are capable. Start with this motto: I’m going to fake it until I make it. No one, I repeat no one, starts out with full knowledge. One thing is for certain, capable or not, you will not reach the finish line if you don’t run the race.
3) Dismiss the fears. Very few people are fearless. I used to be extremely anxiety-ridden. For me, worrying had become so habitual, I felt lost without its presence. I’ve learned to disable this habit (slowly) by simply blocking the though pattern (It has not been easy, but well worth it). For deep rooted anxiety, it’s worth speaking to a professional. But if you hear yourself saying “I’m not good enough” or “I could never…” recognize you’re telling yourself a lie.
4) Recognize mistakes are life lessons. Mistakes are also inevitable. Try. Learn. Grow. Repeat.
5) Just do it. There’s a reason this motto was so effective. Sometimes you just have to dive in.